How often do you wish your partner would reach over and caress you without you having to ask for it? How persistent is the thought that your partner should know after all this time, exactly what it is you need? Experiencing disappointment that we aren’t getting what we want in relationship can feel like the beginning of the end. Instead, it can be an opportunity to approach the relationship in a completely new way. Teaching your partner how to love you is enhanced by their attunement to you, but attunement without direction or guidance leaves a lot of room for disappointment. Disappointment and hurt are a natural part of relationship. But most of us have believed that disappointment and hurt were an unacceptable part of relationship. We have seen them as roadblocks, but they can be the beginning of roadwork. Exploring ways to educate your partner about your likes and dislikes brings honesty, curiosity and passion more deeply into the playing field. Learning how to show or tell your partner in a way that encourages them rather than distances them is one of the areas I get to dive into with you in the couples sessions that are available to you.
If you have found yourself enduring a certain type of touch to avoid conflict or because you don't know how to broach the subject, if you have stifled your desires or felt shame or nervousness about telling your lover what really turns you on, it is not too late. If you have felt insecure about your ability to fully please your partner and don’t know how to overcome that insecurity in a way that brings you closer, imagine what it might be like to give your partner permission to guide you in a vulnerable alluring way. If you haven’t shown your partner what pleases you or shown them how to touch you in a way that brings you pleasure then first of all, you aren’t alone. All of this is extremely common. The good news is that it doesn’t have to be your story any more and most of all, if it is, finding ways to change these patterns can ignite a whole new realm of connection between you and your partner.
One of the most enjoyable parts of my work is dismantling the myths that are in the way of full connection. I get to celebrate the fact that when we start talking about those parts of romantic connection that are difficult to express, we get to embrace the awkward and nervous edges of deepening intimacy. We get to make awkward sexy.
This is one of the areas that we will be diving into in the upcoming series called “Vital Relationship Design”. You will be working privately with your partner in your session with me, uncovering the areas that have been in the way of fully manifesting the kind of relationship you both want. In the group sessions you will learn new tools to grow your relationships and have the opportunity to reflect with one another on the common ground almost every relationship moves through. So check out the details. I’d love to have you in the group.